"Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together."
-Unknown
"Men should be like Kleenex...soft, strong and disposable."
-Cher
"Love is the answer--but while you're waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions."
-Woody Allen
"True love is like a pair of socks...you gotta have two and they have to match."
-Unknown
"When I eventually met Mr. Right I had no idea that his first name was Always."
-Rita Rudner
"I was nauseous and tingly all over. I was either in love or I had small pox."
-Woody Allen
"Gravitation can not be held responsible for people falling in love."
-Albert Einstein
"Without a heart I can never really know what it would be like to love someone, or ever really understand trashy novels."
-Tin Man from The Wizard of Oz
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Songs That Get Me By...
"Undo It" by Carrie Underwood
"Best Days of Your Life" by Kellie Pickler
"Consider Me Gone" by Reba McEntire
"Bug-a-Boo" by Destiny's Child
"According to You" by Orianthi
"Cowboy Cassanova" by Carrie Underwood
"Stronger" by Britney Spears
"I Will Survive" by Gloria Gaynor
Make yourself a play list, go for a drive in the middle of nowhere and SING YOUR DAMN HEART OUT! Even cry if you need too--I promise you will feel better!!
Comment and add your favorites :)
"Best Days of Your Life" by Kellie Pickler
"Consider Me Gone" by Reba McEntire
"Bug-a-Boo" by Destiny's Child
"According to You" by Orianthi
"Cowboy Cassanova" by Carrie Underwood
"Stronger" by Britney Spears
"I Will Survive" by Gloria Gaynor
Make yourself a play list, go for a drive in the middle of nowhere and SING YOUR DAMN HEART OUT! Even cry if you need too--I promise you will feel better!!
Comment and add your favorites :)
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Do What You Say You Are Going to Do!
One of the main things that I just do not understand about guys and probably never will is that some guys (honestly I feel like its 99% of the male population) just can't seem to do what they say they are going to do.
Here is where this is coming from...
Saturday night I talked to PGBoy (I love coming up with these names for these boys lol). I was trying to talk to him about our relationship because its pretty foggy at this point and I needed to clarify some things with him...anyways, it was late and he was tired so he said he would call me the next day and we could finish our conversation. So the next day I expected him to call and of course he didn't. How ANNOYING! Being that this is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves in the whole world I got pretty pissed at him. I needed to get some things out and he totally blew me off...rude! I wasn't asking for much just 5 minutes out of his day to finish what I had to say to we could be done with it and get over the issue. Not asking too much right?! Right :)
When I did talk to him and let him know that I was seriously over guys failing to follow through he felt pretty bad...as he should have! But most importantly he understood that I don't need him to tell me what I want to hear, I just needed him to keep his word...pretty simple when it comes down to it.
Bottom Line Guys: If you say you are going to call then just do it! And if you aren't then don't even tell me you are going to. Even if there is a chance you might not do what you say you are going to...Just DON'T Say You Are Going to Do It! That way if you do something we don't expect you to do you will score brownie points with females...sounds like a great idea to me!! Really, I just do not understand why it can be so difficult for some people to just follow through...I don't really think it is to much to ask or even a difficult thing to do for that matter.
Take Notes Boys...
Here is where this is coming from...
Saturday night I talked to PGBoy (I love coming up with these names for these boys lol). I was trying to talk to him about our relationship because its pretty foggy at this point and I needed to clarify some things with him...anyways, it was late and he was tired so he said he would call me the next day and we could finish our conversation. So the next day I expected him to call and of course he didn't. How ANNOYING! Being that this is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves in the whole world I got pretty pissed at him. I needed to get some things out and he totally blew me off...rude! I wasn't asking for much just 5 minutes out of his day to finish what I had to say to we could be done with it and get over the issue. Not asking too much right?! Right :)
When I did talk to him and let him know that I was seriously over guys failing to follow through he felt pretty bad...as he should have! But most importantly he understood that I don't need him to tell me what I want to hear, I just needed him to keep his word...pretty simple when it comes down to it.
Bottom Line Guys: If you say you are going to call then just do it! And if you aren't then don't even tell me you are going to. Even if there is a chance you might not do what you say you are going to...Just DON'T Say You Are Going to Do It! That way if you do something we don't expect you to do you will score brownie points with females...sounds like a great idea to me!! Really, I just do not understand why it can be so difficult for some people to just follow through...I don't really think it is to much to ask or even a difficult thing to do for that matter.
Take Notes Boys...
Thursday, May 6, 2010
To Go Through His Cell...or Not To Go Through His Cell
You are at your man's place and he leaves his cell phone sitting on the table while he goes to take a shower or he leaves it in the car while he runs into the store. Do you snoop through it or do you leave it alone?? Chances are you are definitely going to snoop and see if he is talking to some random girl, talking about you or whatever else it is that you are looking for. Word of advice...if you think he is hiding something he probably is. I have gone through a few cell phones that were not mine in my day and one thing is certain...I have NEVER been happy with what I have seen. In my experiences I have not known most of the girls my exes were talking to...turns out most of them were "just friends." But in order to find that out I had to bust myself out and admit that I went though his phone...whoops! Then after a fun filled (ha ha right) argument because he says "you don't trust me" or "you don't respect me enough to not go through my phone" you get the real story and find out that some of these girls truly are "just friends."
On the other hand...you could be setting yourself up for major heartbreak. It is never fun to find out your man is cheating because you went through his phone. I was dating this guy my senior year of high school, lets call him Clipper (I will let your imagination run with that one). I was hanging out at his house when he decided to get in the shower and leave me alone in the living room with his cell phone just begging me to look through it. I started going through his text messages and noticed there were a lot of texts from one particular girl. So what did I do??? I called that girl up from his phone to see what was going. She sure was surprised to hear my voice and not Clipper's on the other end. Clipper had told her that we had broken up and he was a single man. Funny considering I still had the promise ring he gave me on my left hand ring finger. Clipper must have heard me on the phone because his naked butt got out of the shower and tried to explain himself to me. Several choice words and a broken plate later I got the real story...he had been cheating. This was the beginning of the end of our over year long relationship.
Snoopers BEWARE! You may be extremely upset or pleasantly surprised by what you may or may not find. Just make sure you are prepared for any outcome if you are going to give in to that unguarded cell phone that is just begging you to go through it :) Either way we are girls and if a guy doesn't want us to go through his phone he needs to take the damn thing with him!
On the other hand...you could be setting yourself up for major heartbreak. It is never fun to find out your man is cheating because you went through his phone. I was dating this guy my senior year of high school, lets call him Clipper (I will let your imagination run with that one). I was hanging out at his house when he decided to get in the shower and leave me alone in the living room with his cell phone just begging me to look through it. I started going through his text messages and noticed there were a lot of texts from one particular girl. So what did I do??? I called that girl up from his phone to see what was going. She sure was surprised to hear my voice and not Clipper's on the other end. Clipper had told her that we had broken up and he was a single man. Funny considering I still had the promise ring he gave me on my left hand ring finger. Clipper must have heard me on the phone because his naked butt got out of the shower and tried to explain himself to me. Several choice words and a broken plate later I got the real story...he had been cheating. This was the beginning of the end of our over year long relationship.
Snoopers BEWARE! You may be extremely upset or pleasantly surprised by what you may or may not find. Just make sure you are prepared for any outcome if you are going to give in to that unguarded cell phone that is just begging you to go through it :) Either way we are girls and if a guy doesn't want us to go through his phone he needs to take the damn thing with him!
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
The List
I have this idea in my head of that the perfect man would be like for me. It all came out one day in a list after years of not getting what I want. I have heard over and over again that you shouldn't define your "perfect" man by a list and the chances of finding that guy with everything on my list are slim to none. Call me crazy but I think he is out there...somewhere! So here it is...my list and an explanation of why these are important qualities in my "perfect" man.
1. Has to REALLY be Single---I dated a married guy once. I met him on my 24th birthday and when I asked him if he had a girlfriend he said "no." So obviously I believe him and don't think he would lie already...right??! Turns out he was actually telling the truth he didn't have a girlfriend...he HAS A WIFE! Dirtbag! It was too late when I found out the "truth" I already liked him A LOT. He told me over and over that he was getting a divorce. Lots of "baby I love you the papers are filled out" and "I promise it's going to happen SOON" more like blah, blah, blah...I am lying through my teeth. Long story short, the divorce never happened. So take it from me ladies...if he isn't completely divorced just STAY AWAY. And remember he is getting divorced for a reason!
2. Has to have a Job---I work too hard for my money and I do not need to support a guy who is too lazy to get off his butt and get a job. Be a pizzaboy (haha) for all I care! At least its a job! Guys with no motivation are not worth my time!
3. No more than ONE Baby Mama---Simply put...it is never easy dating a guy whose child(ren) have a crazy mom!
4. Has to get along with My Friends---let's face it ladies...if your friends can't stand your man the relationship is bound to fail. And who the heck are you supposed to turn to when your friends just don't want to hear it because they hate him!? Take it from me NO GUY IS WORTH LOSING FRIENDS OVER! I learned this the hard way and am forever grateful for a friends "tough love" approach when she couldn't stand the guy I was with--I learned firsthand what it was like to not have her there when I needed her and it SUCKED! But now I still have her as a friend and the guy...yep he's LONG gone!
5. Not addicted to video games---I have seen too many guys pay more attention to their video games than their girlfriends. And then when you try to learn they just get frustrated with you because you aren't playing their game right. Or in my case...the one time I tried to learn I got the character stuck in a corner and could not figure out how to get out!
6. Has a Car---Or at least some form of transportation. I hate driving for one and two I am not a taxi. And I would prefer not to ride on the back of his bike to our date!
7. Good Teeth---that's just on the list because I have a weird thing about teeth :)
8. Doesn't do Drugs---Boys with drug problems just cause you problems! I have had two serious boyfriends who did drugs and one of them still can't kick the habit. I thought I could "save" these morons but as it turns out you cannot help someone who just doesn't care enough to be sober or that doesn't even want to be sober for that matter!
9. Good Looking---No Brainer!! You definitely have to be attracted o the guy you are with!
10. Has to be somewhat funny---Every girl wants a guy who can make her laugh a little!
So there it is! Not to crazy of a list and I don't think I am asking for too much...right??
1. Has to REALLY be Single---I dated a married guy once. I met him on my 24th birthday and when I asked him if he had a girlfriend he said "no." So obviously I believe him and don't think he would lie already...right??! Turns out he was actually telling the truth he didn't have a girlfriend...he HAS A WIFE! Dirtbag! It was too late when I found out the "truth" I already liked him A LOT. He told me over and over that he was getting a divorce. Lots of "baby I love you the papers are filled out" and "I promise it's going to happen SOON" more like blah, blah, blah...I am lying through my teeth. Long story short, the divorce never happened. So take it from me ladies...if he isn't completely divorced just STAY AWAY. And remember he is getting divorced for a reason!
2. Has to have a Job---I work too hard for my money and I do not need to support a guy who is too lazy to get off his butt and get a job. Be a pizzaboy (haha) for all I care! At least its a job! Guys with no motivation are not worth my time!
3. No more than ONE Baby Mama---Simply put...it is never easy dating a guy whose child(ren) have a crazy mom!
4. Has to get along with My Friends---let's face it ladies...if your friends can't stand your man the relationship is bound to fail. And who the heck are you supposed to turn to when your friends just don't want to hear it because they hate him!? Take it from me NO GUY IS WORTH LOSING FRIENDS OVER! I learned this the hard way and am forever grateful for a friends "tough love" approach when she couldn't stand the guy I was with--I learned firsthand what it was like to not have her there when I needed her and it SUCKED! But now I still have her as a friend and the guy...yep he's LONG gone!
5. Not addicted to video games---I have seen too many guys pay more attention to their video games than their girlfriends. And then when you try to learn they just get frustrated with you because you aren't playing their game right. Or in my case...the one time I tried to learn I got the character stuck in a corner and could not figure out how to get out!
6. Has a Car---Or at least some form of transportation. I hate driving for one and two I am not a taxi. And I would prefer not to ride on the back of his bike to our date!
7. Good Teeth---that's just on the list because I have a weird thing about teeth :)
8. Doesn't do Drugs---Boys with drug problems just cause you problems! I have had two serious boyfriends who did drugs and one of them still can't kick the habit. I thought I could "save" these morons but as it turns out you cannot help someone who just doesn't care enough to be sober or that doesn't even want to be sober for that matter!
9. Good Looking---No Brainer!! You definitely have to be attracted o the guy you are with!
10. Has to be somewhat funny---Every girl wants a guy who can make her laugh a little!
So there it is! Not to crazy of a list and I don't think I am asking for too much...right??
Here we go ladies...
I am approaching my 25th birthday(YIKES!) and feel like I am going through a mid-mid life crisis. I am yet again single and sick of getting "screwed over" by members of the opposite sex. As I sit and think about all of my past relationships I realize something...I have done A LOT of stupid things in the name of love. So here we go...a collection of stories, ideas, lists and advice. Maybe this will help all of the women out there feeling like I am or at least help you learn something from my mistakes and crazy adventures in my love quest!
Enjoy!!!
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